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Thu Nov 26, 2009 8:16 am
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| filthyFRESH wrote: |
@ Trick Baby
GIRL! My ex cheated on me with this chick (she's his cousin's ex-girlfriend by the way). Now they're engaged & just had a baby. And he is miserable as the day is long. SMH. |
God bless them! |
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Fri Nov 27, 2009 5:36 pm
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| Trick Baby wrote: |
| I think sometimes that his new chick is actually more suitable for him. Are there certain types of women who can realistically deal with and even ENJOY being with a man like this? |
Women who like to control their men and be the dominant one in the relationship. Eventually it doesn't last long but mostly those types enjoy the company of the "kept man".
Dependency is power to most people. When others are dependent on you there is a certain amount of power you have over them. In a relationship the natural male/female roles are usually defined by nature but when a woman has been turned out, abused, dominated by men for a good part of her life she enjoys the short stint with a man she can dominate.
Its like a job, once they are dependent on you it puts you in a position where you can call shots and it creates a feeling of extreme value. (This is the feeling most macks should have daily).
On the flip side sometimes the guy who needs a woman to function feels some control as well. If he is running through GF's like traffic lights then he may have the thinking that he is going to DUMP THEM before they DUMP HIM so he just keeps replacing his women to keep one around. There are women who get down with this too.
...from what I have seen. |
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Fri Nov 27, 2009 8:54 pm
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| Trick Baby wrote: |
Dependency is power to most people. When others are dependent on you there is a certain amount of power you have over them. In a relationship the natural male/female roles are usually defined by nature but when a woman has been turned out, abused, dominated by men for a good part of her life she enjoys the short stint with a man she can dominate.
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Or when a woman was raised by a dominating woman and think that there is only one way a man can love a woman: by doing every friggin' thing she says. And then you grow up and realize that ish is not cute nor fun. |
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Sun Feb 28, 2010 8:40 am
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| I don't get this. I don't understand people who feel like they HAVE to have someone. I especially don't understand this in men. I thought most men valued their freedom and didn't wanna be tied down? What's REALLY going on? |
This was definitely b4 "The Elite Way" was published....but yeah some guys feel having a girlfriend or a lady on their arm is a major accomplishment and can't see themselves w/o it....that's how that henpecked BS starts. |
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Mon Mar 01, 2010 9:44 pm
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| Plan~B wrote: |
The man who has to have a woman is essentially showing weakness. He is inadvertently letting those who know him see he has some dependency issues if he cannot roll solo for a period of time. I think all men should have moments in life where we truly just work on the business of ME. Relationships are draining and even in a situation where a man is the leader - he still needs time to & for himself.
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My ex NEVER needed time to himself. He always wanted to be up under me. This dude was a 6'4" ex-quarterback and in my mind's-eye he looked to me like that snot-nose lil' kid from Martin...I figuratively LOOKED DOWN ON HIM. I knew I could never trust nor respect this man to be the leader of me and my family when I asked him had he ever in all his 35 years lived on his own, no roommates, no girlfriend, no family and he said "NO." This man literally never had or owned anything that was completely his own except his nuts.
I'm still seeking answers about who I was to have been with him, who he was to have made himself appealing to me then, who is he really and what kind of woman wants that? So doing some inductive reasoning and (FB patrolling, hehe) I have a feeling that the kind of woman that wants a dude like this is yes as we already theorized, a woman who likes to dominate but I've found another type. The ex-ho, slut, ran-through-too-many-times type, that feels like her best years are over and who just wants a man as a sign that her virtue of womanhood is still in tact. I see this woman coddling to T just like he coddled to me. From what I can tell, she is the subordinate one in the relationship. I'm not mad at him, he finally got his place of leadership in a relationship and all it took was hooking up with someone of inferior moral fiber, lower self-esteem, less accomplished in life than himself to do so. That least resistant path is a mofo! Sad.
Boy have a learned a very important lesson in vetting people before giving your heart to them and the very essential prerequisite of RESPECT that is concomitant with LOVE.
@sewaweed - Is this topic addressed in Elite Way? Oh boy, TN is about to get more of ma' money! I already bought the aviator sunglasses for my dad for his cruise to the Caribbean.  |
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Tue Mar 02, 2010 5:58 am
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"I'm still seeking answers about who I was to have been with him"
"This man literally never had or owned anything that was completely his own except his nuts. "
Like Alexis Tyler says "HE BUSTED YOUR CHAKRAS" your mind is definitely on this man's nutts and azz and what he's doing with it...
Listen to this series you'll feel it...
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=p5Y5eynBZ5o |
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Tue Mar 02, 2010 9:14 am
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The funny thing is...although I can acknowledge in all honesty that his sex game was super tight, the lack of respect that I had for him, makes it impossible for me to miss him as an entire person. The sex was good yes. Did it distract me from pursuing my dreams? Yes. Are my dreams more important to me than him busting my chakras? Hells yes! I look forward to it happening again in the future, by a man of means, next time though. FA SHO.
I quote, Edie (Mena Suvari) from "Six Feet Under" for emphasis:
"Your penis is kinda nice...
too bad you're attached to it." |
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Wed Mar 03, 2010 3:57 am
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| Glad you're honest...and it inspires me to become a RENAISSANCE MAN@@ |
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Wed Mar 03, 2010 4:38 am
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| seaweed wrote: |
"This man literally never had or owned anything that was completely his own except his nuts. "
"HE BUSTED YOUR CHAKRAS" your mind is definitely on this man's nutts and azz and what he's doing with it...
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Wed Mar 03, 2010 5:17 am
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| seaweed wrote: |
"This man literally never had or owned anything that was completely his own except his nuts. "
"HE BUSTED YOUR CHAKRAS" your mind is definitely on this man's nutts and azz and what he's doing with it...
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hmmm[/quote
What kind of Moist sh*t is that? LOL
hmmm yummmy SMH   |
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Wed Mar 03, 2010 5:21 am
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Wed Mar 03, 2010 5:56 am
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A thousand apologies tough internet, Moist-dude, I beg your forgiveness.
I've been told. 
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Fri Mar 05, 2010 8:27 pm
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i dont care what you do, parrot, read another BOOK and spout from it, just quit thinkin youre on our level
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Mon Mar 08, 2010 6:33 am
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| Well you know just like a preacher is a parrot for christ man..the truth is the truth..so if i'm a parrot for the truth..I'MMA KEEP TELLIN IT! |
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